Then make wudu like the wudu done for prayer, then pour water on his right side, then the left side. JazakAllah Khair. I would like to know the rights of the mother and the wife, so that I can maintain a balance in the family. It is not allowed at that point to use ones own hands or any instrument to insert or rub vaginal area to reach orgasm and feel satisfied. yes, jazakAllah khair for clarifying thissome of the translations cause confusion when they translate a menstruating woman which actually means a woman who has gotten her menstruation i.e. How do you explain orgasm to your non married daughter? They resort to learning from TV and the Internet, both of which are dangerous forms of educating oneself if not done sensibly. Although both position 2 & 3 makes it very clear that it must be done without involving anything haram, like the usage of porn etc. Some Quick tips to reduce frequency of Wet dreams. Dont you see that it was sufficient enough for Umm Sulaym and Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with them both) to stop where they did? If a woman has a wet dream of herself masturbating and feels aroused(vaginal throbbing) and sees discharge but cannot tell if this discharge is from the dream or the daily discharge women usually have. Question: If she sees extra vaginal discharge but is sure that she didnt have any dream of sexual nature at all? We use cookies on IslamQA to measure visitor stats. Rub water on the whole of your body like oil, especially in winter (this is when you can rub soap over your body). Jazak Allah, Assalmualaikumhow about when you think about sex you get a vaginal discharge.does that need ghusl. Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 9, Number 490: I totally agree. So, this is not obsession, it is giving it its fair due. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream? The Prophet said: Yes, if she sees water (a discharge). Umm Salamah covered her face and said, O Messenger of Allah, can a woman have an erotic dream? He said, Yes, may your hands be rubbed with dust. Is giving a discount based on sales target permissible in a business? I am a female, I ask these questions below to in shaa Allah make my ibadaat easy and avoid needless bathing, my non-Muslim family can say that I only spend time in toilet for ghusl and wudu as urinating takes a lot of time for me and preparation for salah therefore too. Every one of you brothers and sisters, go to islamqa.com, type in the keywords of your questions and concerns, 9 times out of 10 you will find your answer on the utmost embarrassing issues answered by real scholars. How else would her child resemble her? (Bukhari). Today I woke up in the middle of a short nap after fajr and started thinking what and whom I saw in my dream to understand if I saw a wet dream or not. So how would I know if the wetness is from the dream or if its my normal discharge? InshaAllah maybe you can also just throw in the method of performing ghusl (at least the faraid). Perhaps if a person indulges in sexual thoughts, it may/can cause an ejaculation and he/she will have to make ghusal. Now I am not sure what to do due to the Hadith that a Junub person cannot recite the Quran. If a woman does not remember any sexual dream but wakes up with yellow discharge, is ghusl obligatory? I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind saying yes. My husband is not living with me for short period of time so of course i havent been intimate. Is this true? By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of cookies. 4. for females This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. 1. I think doubts are baseless, but cant judge in a state of doubts.. Interacting with married folks on personal matters. so can you please tell me something about this because am totally fed up of this. like she didnt know it was bad to touch self and stuff. Answer: The ' asl (original) is that she has not had a wet dream, so until there is yaqin (certainty) she does not have to take a bath. I am not sure if the fluid is mainly or math I either as it was a clear type fluid and not exactly thick almost like a normal discharge. Or should I wait till my menstraul cycle finishes then have have shower to get rid of the state? I tried smelling it too but I dont think I detect any smell from it has Im not even what kind of smell Im searching for. For a pre-teen, its incredibly tough knowing that their body is changing especially when they dont have anything other than their Biology classes and their friends to go on. This does not purify as it does not count as washing. The scholars (may Allaah have mercy on them) have described all cases, and their comments may be divided into three categories: 1 - Cases in which ghusl is required according to consensus: (i)Emission of maniy (semen) even if it is not through . Umm Salamah asked: What about women, O Messenger of Allah? Umm Salamah said: Umm Sulaym came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, and said, O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth. Make everything sound normal. and Allah knows best. but when you are awake and involuntarily a sexual thought comes across your mind and we get aroused and colorless liquid is experienced are we accountable for that too? He/ She has to perform ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah (impurity), if maniy (semen) was emitted. Otherwise they will ruin their worldly life and hereafter by falling prey to friends, media & internet. with all the flowing opinions out there, it gets a bit difficult. i apologise about this, I dont know why im having such a difficult time with this. For almost a week now it randomly started at 11pm at night whilst being awake i would feel sexually aroused uncontrollably even if nothing comes to mind of that nature. Should they then do ghusl? Fasting and praying is better. maybe this article will help you about the regular vaginal discharges: Im sorry for being so explicit, but this is just porn covered with an Islamic label. Q: I have a question about wet dreams. InshaAllah I will post all the proofs and details in a post. Secondly, please dont be so hard upon yourself. There is no shame in matters of religion and we take them all seriously. I keep pushing the thoughts out of my head, but sometimes feel I cant. He said, He should do ghusl. He was asked about a man who thinks that he had an erotic dream but does not see any wetness. Now te other opinion states that u do ghusl. Since then, she's been passionately working towards empowering Muslim women through the correct and untainted teachings of Islam. Key Principles Relating to Certainty, Doubt, and Baseless Misgivings (Waswasa), And Allah knows best. I would say just start talking about it. A much needed article. I dont get why people need to reduce the frequency of wet dreams that they have, it is not like it is in their hands nor will Allah hold them accountable for it because it is not something wrong in of itself.. Then im not sure if ive been aroused or not. Carlos, please realize that this blog serves a dual-audience of Muslims and nons. Firstly, I want to thank you for the quality of the thought provoking content. My question is I my dream a man is pinch me near my privat part but I didnt feel any thing Its a part of life and if girls dont learn about all this, then they will end up becoming more and more distant and reserved from their parents. It can be a lunch table discussion, or if you have younger children, it can be one on one with the older one. discharge after a wet dream is involuntary act. Set it and collect blessings from Allah (swt) for the khayr you're supporting without thinking about it. Ibn Al-Mundhir said, "All the people of knowledge, as far as I know, agree on this point." The hadith of Umm Salamah mentioned earlier supports this proposition. I have nothing much to add, but I pray it is of benefit to all who read it, ameen. Generally it is more common amongst teenagers and frequency reduces as you grow up (and get married giving an alternate release for your hormonal buildup). Al-Kashshaaf, which is one of the books of the Hanbali school, reads; or that he is sure i.e. The water of the man is thick and white, and the water of the woman is thin and yellow. Therefore, if a girl/woman sees a wet dream, it does not mean that she is sexually perverted, lewd or immodest in any sense. If it was colourless wetness then just wash the area and make wudhu. I realized I saw my ex-husband, then someone else, I started worry if I saw some sexual relation etc, I was kind of sure I didnt see anything like that and didnt experience climax in the dream, but as there were parts of a dream that I didnt remember anymore, I was starting having doubts and trying to remember all. .. 2. I just know that I was conscious of it right after it happened. 2. I remember having no climax but still saw moisture. I have felt a bit guilty about this. do i need to take ghusl before zohar namaz/salat? I washed myself and went to work thinking of all this again (and probably had more wetness appearing therefore) and when I came to work after few hours in toilet I felt that wetness again. And like the narration in Sahih Muslim in which the Prophet sallallahu alihi wasalam indicated that a mans prayer is cut off when a woman who has gotten her menstruation passes in front of him.. but recently stoped after finding out. I have never experienced wet dreams as a teenage girl. As for the discharge, it could be from the dream but not from the orgasm. If you are following whats right, dont fear the blame of the blamers and correct me. and can i offer my prayer on the same bedsheet ? [Ustadh] Sufyan Qufi Many sisters are ignorant of these issues because they havent looked into it properly. However, you will have to filter that to appropriate information and in mild terms. If it takes too long for them to reply, ring into Islam channel on the IslamQA which comes on about 8:00pm almost every day, if not every day, and ask there. How can one have a wet dream which includes an orgasm?Does this mean whilst shes asleep she has an orgasm.Can this orgasm be heard from people around her? Can you clarify this for me please. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. what is the ruling regarding amarried woman having thoughts of another man like what ever she dors the man jst pop in her mind but the thoughts are not sexually related. If it is in reference to masturbation, then please be reminded that mastrubation is haramnevertheless a person must make ghusal. Al-Liqa al-Shahri (37/25) (the wife of the prophet s.a.w) is the one who narrates the hadith, but she isnt the one asking the question. Discharge after sexual excitement doesnt necessitate ghusalbut orgasm does, Pingback: A Womens Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding - MuslimMatters.org. If u can recall it and are half awake it counts as masturbation, It is not allowed at that point to use ones own hands or any Sister Umm Reem, ['Ala' al-Din Abidin, al-Hadiyya al-'Ala'iyya] In fact, Ibn Hazm, Ash-Shawkani and some of the Hanbalis believed it to be permissable. Praise be to Allah. He said, He should do ghusl. He was asked about a man who thinks that he had an erotic dream but does not see any wetness. The Hanafi jurists cite a particular but relevant ruling that if a woman has a wet dream and during the dream, she felt her desires being fulfilled and experiences the same pleasure of sexual climax (like orgasm) but did not ejaculate then she will not have to do ghusl. this is going to be extremely weird question but i need answer. Please do not traumatize children about their natural bodily functions. That was about ten years ago and over the time; our society has only become more corrupted. I dont get orgasm but there is a wetness is this a wet dream that I am having and do I need to make ghusl as i experience the throbbing and it wakes me up. could it be that the wetness had dried? The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". So many young souls are vulnerable through not having the resources and avenues to trust information outlets and remain in quite an emotionally stuck place within themselves. No shy or arrogant person will ever seek knowledge.. May Allaah have mercy on us, grant us Haya and guide us to whats most pleasing to Him. Jazakallahkhair. asak..please let me know about this clearly im much confused. Allahu alam but apparently the interpretation is that only if the dream resulted in orgasm (and not just a dream). or i can pray without having to do ghusl? I hope you continue to write on matters of relevance to Muslims, especially the ladies. Dream. An example of when a person says their intention out loud is when he stands for prayer but before he starts praying and before the first takbeer, he says I intend to pray maghrib, 3 rakahs, fardh for Allah, in congregation, etc.. For ghusl, Allah says in the Quran If you are in a state of ceremonial impurity, bathe your whole body (Al-maida 6) every part MUST be wet, not leaving out inside your earlobes, belly button, crevices, etc. It covers all aspects of life. It has to be accompanied by an orgasm. So should i do ghusl anywayz in cases like these although in my heart i am more sure that it is frm sprinkling.JAzakAllahu kahirnWalaikum aslam wr wb. If you are suffering from incontinence of that wetness, then you have to perform ablution for every prayer after its prescribed time has started, and you pray whatever obligatory prayers and supererogatory prayers you wish with this ablution until that time (i.e.